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Aug 20, 2009, 11:47 AM
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Member Since: Jan 2009
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Originally Posted by peaches100
...we've worked significantly on helping me develop trust and a secure relationship...
...i've truly felt a good connection and alot of trust.
...I can't seem to get a sense of continuity. What i mean is that i can't seem to put together the individual sessions in order to create a feeling inside myself that this is, and has been, a continuous relationship of trust building over time. ...
...it feels like each session is it's own separate thing...
...Then, the following week, that session is separate.
...Somehow, i can't see the big picture.
So i never do develop a secure attachment based on years worth of separate interactions that i should be able to combine to form a lasting connected relationship. ...
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Wow, so well put...hmmm
What does a "secure attachment" looks like? Perhaps just being and going there. Maybe this is it!
What is a "lasting and connecting relationship"? Maybe this also is it. Nothing more, nothing less.
Feelings come and go, connection/commitment, for me, to a time and place with a certain individual who helps you may be all that it is. Ummm, sorry I gave it my best shot.
I am DD so I have these unrelated feelings happening all the time (or so it appears). But...the bigger picture for me is, the commitment of 8 or so years of therapy with the same person week after week, and in the beginning sometimes 2 X's a week for 2.5 hour sessions! That is a lasting and connecting relationship with a feeling of secure and sometimes not attachment/relationship.
Now, I can be on holiday for a month and feel secure that relationship is what I will go back to and will be there, waiting, like always. Maybe, in the first 7 years I could not have stated this sense of security but with all the hard work of the previous years I can (at least today *smile*)
Hope you get more likable answers.
Luv
Hunny
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Last edited by Hunny; Aug 20, 2009 at 11:59 AM.
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