Everyone,

Thanks for your help. This is a tough time for me. We were friends for a long-time prior to becoming boyfriend/girlfriend, so I care for her deeply. I don't want to leave her, but the relationship is not there anymore. I just contacted her childhood best friend, to see if she can help me with an intervention. We just don't know how to go about it. She is very worried about her also, noting many of the same things that I mentioned. We have decided based on our experiences that her family is not helping. In fact they tend to dump their problems onto her, and this has been going on since she was young. So including them in the intervention may not be a good thing. Does anyone have any intervention experience?