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Originally Posted by Hunny
Wow, so well put...hmmm
What does a "secure attachment" looks like? Perhaps just being and going there. Maybe this is it!
What is a "lasting and connecting relationship"? Maybe this also is it. Nothing more, nothing less.
Feelings come and go, connection/commitment, for me, to a time and place with a certain individual who helps you may be all that it is. Ummm, sorry I gave it my best shot.
I am DD so I have these unrelated feelings happening all the time (or so it appears). But...the bigger picture for me is, the commitment of 8 or so years of therapy with the same person week after week, and in the beginning sometimes 2 X's a week for 2.5 hour sessions! That is a lasting and connecting relationship with a feeling of secure and sometimes not attachment/relationship.
Now, I can be on holiday for a month and feel secure that relationship is what I will go back to and will be there, waiting, like always. Maybe, in the first 7 years I could not have stated this sense of security but with all the hard work of the previous years I can (at least today *smile*)
Hope you get more likable answers.
Luv
Hunny
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Hi Hunny,
So are you saying that the secure relationship or attachment relationship is actually the process itself of meeting over time in a safe way? Rather than something to be achieved (an end result)? Sorry if i misunderstood. it's early, and i can be dense at times.
