Well I relate a bit. My husband is just amazingly sweet and I'm afraid it's too easy for me to take him for granted. The counselor says maybe I resent him because of how dependent and enmeshed I've become, he really likes to take care of me and I seem to like to be taken care of, but I guess there is a part of me that bristles at being so far from independent.

I don't think that's all there is to it either. I have the problem of getting really obsessed too about people it can't work with or just friends or even other people who really reject me capturing my attention more than the awesome accepting ones.