You're welcome, ashleigh. I needed to review that stuff anyway. I do plenty of self-destructive behavior myself. Books have been written about why we do things like that. Some reasons I have found are that we don't feel like we deserve to get what we want, or also that we are afraid of failing and if we can blame it on something (for example, not studying for a test) then we might not feel as bad because we can still tell ourselves that maybe if we had really tried we could have done it. The same idea underlies perfectionism too, well, that's another self-destructive behavior. By telling ourselves that we have to be perfect, we either don't even start on things because it would never be good enough, or we put everything we have into obsessing over one thing and just let everything else slide. Just one more way to sabotage ourselves.

Isn't the human mind amazing?
Wendy

<font color=red>"Striving for excellence motivates you; striving for perfection is demoralizing." -Harriet Braiker</font color=red>