I have never heard of any relationships such as "friends with bennies" working out to where they can go back to the friendship as it was before the bennies. It's just impossible to do I think. I suppose I could be wrong.

It always seemed that one of the friends ended up having more feelings for the other than was planned on or wanted. That puts the friendship in a whole new light. It would have to take some pretty remarkable people to keep it even close to what it was before an encounter like this.

As an example, I'll use myself for a moment. I have an old high school friend.....he was my first true love. We were exclusive for almost 2 years through high school. We lost track of each other for many years and then found each other on the net. We began communicating through messenger and email. It was great getting to know him again and to see pics of his family etc.

Now that we are both divorced, he wants to "get together" for old times sake. We have quite a history and I know he wants to compare then to now (you know, being older and having more experience type thing). I've actually considered the idea of "friends with bennies" with him. I thought, well, I'm pretty safe with him, he's a great guy, very caring, compassionate and silly too. I actually got to see him a short time ago and we considered.....but I just couldn't go through with it. I knew it would put our relationship, our friendship on a different plane.....I didn't want to loose where we are for where it might take us.....it could be disasterous.

Since you can't give us much background info at this time, it's hard to say if this could work for you or not. You are not me.....so who knows. I'm just going by my own experience and that which I have seen with other family members and friends who have gone though this as well.

I wish you well no matter what you decide!


sabby