Thank you so much for your response. As I wrote to Sabby, I believe that I need to be far more critical than I have been and I believe that in asking him to seek counseling on his own it's a step in the right direction. He claims he does know his behaviour is inappropriate but in the next breath says, "I could understand if my intent was sexual but it wasn't, all I was asking was for her to show our daughter how to do a cartwheel" Clearly, he doesn't get it. My hope is that in counseling he will have someone that can help him see that if he did this in front of the young womans husband he'd likely be sporting a black eye.