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Aug 22, 2009, 01:15 PM
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Member Since: Jun 2007
Location: Chicago, Illinois
Posts: 5,518
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I think it would definitely alter your relationship. What if it turns out to be a horrible experience - and he wants more?  Wouldn't it make the work environment a little uncomfortable? Even worse, what if it turns out to be the best you've ever had? What if some flying little fat kid with an arrow shoots you and you fall in love with this guy?  What does he know about you? He'd know you like to sleep with men who flirt with you. 
I met my husband at work. I was attracted to him and flirted almost shamelessly, but I couldn't seem to get his attention. It wasn't until after months of trying that we finally started seeing each other. The reason he ignored my flirtation was because he had a girlfriend in another state he saw on the weekends. He waited until things were over with her before he paid any attention to me. This impressed me because I knew I could trust him. Most men would have taken advantage of a little "something on the side" during the week - I wouldn't have known - he didn't. Now that we're married, I don't have to worry about women who flirt with my husband at work.
He was impressed with me too. I was very physically attracted to him, but we dated a long time before we became intimate (he jokes he was about to give up on me, lol). He was impressed because it told him I don't sleep around and take a sexual relationship very seriously. I'm not a prude, I just wanted to get to know him and give myself the chance to fall in love with him before giving him my heart. It was worth the wait for me. IMO, there's nothing better than having sex with someone you love with all your heart and soul. We've been together 20 years, and I still have a crush on him. 
However, I DO remember lust and "one-night-stands" have been going on since....forever. Good luck, be careful, and have fun. 
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