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Originally Posted by Berries
I agree with Thinker. It sounds to me more like borderline personality disorder than bipolar.
I also see some co-dependence here.
I really think it is time to move on. I know it's hard but all you are getting in this situation is heart ache.
You sound like a really nice guy who deserves a really nice gal. Not to say that mentally ill people can't be nice. They CAN. Just maybe not this particular mentally ill gal. And who knows maybe someday she will get proper help and become worthy of a guy like you. But it is NOT your responsiblity to get her to that point--no matter how much you love her.
I speak from experience. I was in a very abusive relationship for 7 years with a borderline personality gal. It was brutal and damaging to me in ways that have taken me years trying to get over. I have just recently been able to forgive her and in doing so stop letting her hurt me and am now starting to move on to better things. All with the help of the people here on psyche central and my therapist.
You deserve better. Much, much better. I hope you realize this soon and move on to a better, happier and more fufilled life.
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At this point much is obvious especially her intent to shut me out. Unfortunately this means unfinished business like retrieving personal property. She will not deal with me on any issue even though she has agreed to : example: we have had two scheduled meets at her place so I could access my stuff,this meant a long drive with rental and calling the local PD for stand by, each time all was in place and she then decides she's not ready for me to come into the house( to search for my stuff, no trust is a big issue here) she won't allow me to be part of her consciousness . She is blocking me . Period. This is what is hanging me up now. I am a little too upset with her disrespect to just walk away
and let her have a clean sweep of me, so irresponsibly. There also remains legal issues(assaults by her) Crazy really applies to this whole scenario. What a mess.
I do believe that your advise is right on target and is to be my goal. Thank you