I have similar issues. I had written a post a little while ago about something similar. I'm not sure if it's the same thing, but it does have to do with keeping a connection. I struggle with being able to feel safe with T each week, especially if I am more dissociated some weeks, or there is too much space in between our sessions.

It feels like after all this time, I should know that T is T, and that she is safe, but I lose that connection each time and it feels like I have to spend half the session or more sometimes just trying to figure out if T is still the same person and still safe.

Here is the post I made about it. I don't know if it is the same or if it will help but thought I'd throw it out there in case. If not, just disregard it.

http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=109770

I don't know how to solve it though. I try to self talk. But because I think I separate myself from events so easily, it's a struggle.