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scotlandskye · Aug 22, 2009, 03:55 PM

Tishie......Thanks....I have friends that have what they call "f" buddies also. I don't know if this guy would turn into one of those or not or if it would be a one time thing. I'm ok with either.

marjan....Thanks....yeah dating would be ok, I don't have an interest to date him. I'm not interested like that. It is more sexual then anything else. Not use to this feeling either or an attraction quite like this.

lynn P......thanks......We both would be going into it knowing excatly what is is and what it meant!!! There would be no strings and or no committment on either end....no he doesn't have a girlfriend...I did my homework lol.....brought up a good point about it being someone from work and guys talking....would like to think the he wouldn't be that is something I didn't think about...thanks

jerrymichele.....Actually oddly enough it isn't me with the issues on this. I only brought it up here because I was curious what others thought. He is the one that thinks that I will have the issues and won't be able to walk away. If I could get him over here right now...well I wouldn't be typing this. I know this is what I want and I know that I will be ok with it. He is the one that thinks not necessairly that he is great in bed, but that he knows what he is doing and has the personality and all that that goes along with it. He has never had anyone who could just walk away. Well there is a first time for everything. No worries you didn't hurt my feelings. No it isn't all sex talk. We have known each other basically for two years. We of course talk cause of work and all. We started a little flirting here and there, but in a non sexual way. It escalated. I make more the sexual comments then he does. if he were to find someone else and mess around with them...one I probably wouldn't know and if I did I would be ok with it. I know I say that now, but I am 98% sure I wouldn't care because I'm not into him like that...Does that make sense??? Again oddly enough it is me that wants this. I wouldn't say I want it more...was my idea I guess is what I'm trying to say.....

kathyM....Thanks.....Yeah I tried to tell him what if he ended up wanting more...Was told that wouldn't happen. I told him that if he ws SO sure that it wouldn't happen to him, why was he SO worried that it would happen to me? Possible that the little fat kid with the arrow could hit me but don't see it happening. Aww that is a great story about you and your husband and I think that is great I really do. I'm not one to sleep around...Yeah I know then why did I start this post right??? I'm sure that is going through minds here. In my 37 years I have only had 2 one night stands and can count still in single digits how many people I have been with sexually. It is a big deal to me and it hard for me to open up like that. That is why this feels so different and strange to me. I would never normally think of doing anything like this. It is so off the wall for me. New found confidenence? I don't know...I know that I will respect whatever he decides. THanks

Shangrala...THanks!! Maybe when I started this post I was a little hestitant about what I said in fear of what others would think even though no one here knows me personally but still. I am the one all for this. It was my idea. He is for it, but the one worrying about how I will feel after. I know that I can walk away. I know that he and I can continue as we were. I have no doubt in my mind but he is the one hung up on it. I have told him and not every woman is the same. We don't all react the same way to things. He may be use to women wanting more, but I don't see it happening for me. I'm the one who has laid it all out there what I wanted, my intentions which are purely sexual....he has the hang ups.

Thanks everyone