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Originally Posted by jerrymichele
Honestly from what I'm reading in your posts I really don't think that you should do it. You seem so undecided about it, so if I was you I just wouldn't do it. Then ask yourself this. Let's just say that you did do it, and all of a sudden he finds someone else that he wants to mess around with, how do you think you would handle it? Do you think that you would feel used for his own needs. Also it sounds like that he is only talking to you about sex. He might not even think of you as a friend. It sounds like he's just working on you just to get you in the bed. Sorry I'm not trying to hurt your feelings. I just think that you should look at it from both ways. I would tell him that you just want to stay friends for right now.  |
I totally agree. I had a "friend" like that. We both agreed it was just for monogamus sex. We were'nt really the best of friends we were just aquaintances. But we had grown up together and I knew he was safe and he knew I was safe. We seen eachother for a little over a year. Then he found a girl he really liked and, thinking it would'nt bother me, quit talking to me. I was saddened. Because even though the relationship was a purley physical one no strings attached, I had grown close to him and since he and I both agreed to a sexual-only relationship, he was'nt obligated to hang out with me anymore or just talk on the phone. His girlfriend wuld get jealous and etc etc. It's just a bad idea. Sex is complicated. It brings alot of emotions and feelings. You can say now, well we don't have a close friendship, or I know so and so who does it. But sex will bring about feelings whether they are romantic or just careing, they are strong emotions. And the friend who has "buddies" and says she does'nt care, deep down you don't know what she is thinking or feeling. Or it could go the other way: He could start to get deep feelings for you and you don't want relationship. So then he gets hurt. Sorry so long, it's just I have been on both ends of the friends with benefits and it will always end up hurting someone.