MacD Good for you! Now write your mother a note tell her thank you for teaching How not to love a child. Let her know that You have learned valued lesson and you will do everything in your power to see that your Kids are loved for who and what they are.
How can she be angry when you are thanking her for being such a great teacher? Yes i am being sarcastic. but there is some truth there.
i have no idea of what your faith is or spiritual beliefs are. So use the following or not . This is just something that a vet wise man once ask me to do when confronted with Hostility. When talking to your mother or anyone who is giving you a hard time. silent say to yourself The god in me reaches out to the God in you. Say it in your mind over and over again. Let it be a mantra. for a long time I rejected this technique. One day while in a heated debate i used it and it worked! OK one time on big deal but over time it has worked time and again. The other party often losses all the anger and is confused by this sudden loss of anger and will to fight.