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AAAAA · Aug 23, 2009, 08:36 PM

Hello Bill, welcome to PC! We’re so glad you found us and I’m sure you’ll find the site filled with valuable information and wonderful support.

If you don’t mind I’ll give you my opinion of your problem just as you’ve posted them.

1 – depression. It is so difficult to work on this by yourself. To be successful you really do need professional help. Many times this includes medication that may affect your sex drive and or your physical ability to have sex. There are SO many medications out there, communicate with your doctor the problems you’re having and together you can work these things out.

2 – don’t want to be alone. May I ask whether you don’t want to be alone or can’t be alone. I think it’s normal to desire someone special in your life, but if it’s a matter of can’t you really should consider discussing this with a therapist and get to the heart of this issue.

3 – Drug dependency. Why is it that you don’t want to take medication that can improve your life while you’re willing to continue using drugs that make it more difficult? Are you ready to seek help for this problem? I’ve heard that there is a specific strain of marijuana that will help with things like anxiety but I do believe (could be mistaken) that marijuana is also a depressant.

4 – Crappy childhood. I’m so sorry to hear this. Too many of us carry the scars from childhood and spend the rest of our lives trying to compensate. This is also something a professional can assist you with.

5 – Sex life. Sex is a very big part of a relationship, but your problem is most likely a temporary thing, but compared to a life time of companionship it really is a drop in the bucket. In the meantime there are many tools out there to help. Who’s that woman on Sunday nights? Sue Johansen?

Each problem you’ve mentioned contributes to a difficult existence, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I think you’re best bet would be finding a good therapist to help you work on these issues.