(((((((((((((((Kathie)))))))))))))
What name did you give her?? I lost my first child also. that was in 1974. Her name was Jennifer. I grieved for a very long time. Unfortunately no one validated my grief. My thoughts to you are to be with those who honor your grief as real and very deep. Name your little girl. That gives her honor and identity. Keep any cards you get. Keep any sonograms, clothes, toys or anything that is memory. Put them in a pretty box and hold them, touch them look at them any time you need to. Cry as much as you want. Cuddle a favorite stuffed toy or doll. Do whatever your senses tell you to do to help you through. When you are able, write her a letter telling her all your saddness, any plans you had for her, what you envision she looks like. Put that letter in the box. Keep a journal of this journey. Join a support group of other pregnancy loss survivors. Have a memorial service. Light a candle and keep it burning.

I wish I had known to do these things when our Jennifer died. That many years ago it was brushed under the carpet so to speak. It took over 5 years before I found a group that honored this loss. It took another 3 yrs before I really grieved and talked about it.

I hope that this helps some. All words seem so empty and meaningless. My thoughts are with you and my heart cries along with you.
White Iris