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eskielover · Aug 24, 2009, 02:12 AM

((((phoenix)))))),

Your Gypsey kitty sounded like the most wonderful baby of yours....when we have a pet (member of our family) that we are that close with, their death is no less to us than any other member of the family would be.

When we go through these things in our lives, our mind takes time to be away from everything so that is isn't completely overwhelmed by the pain we are feeling.....thus the shut down, the mind taking time to sleep through the pain. (I know I lost my first eskie dog (Excell) last year & I went through the same shut down.) The not eating or drinking is exactly what I went through when my Mother died 4 years ago...it was my bodies reaction to the stress I was going through....only there was a trauma on top of that & I wasn't eating for months & ended up really sick.

The shut down feeling you are experiencing is normal & it's important to realize that is isn't permanent.....when the mind is ready to handle more, it will be back like it was before going through this....able to handle everything together.....right now you are just processing the death of Gypsey.....how our mind reacts to death can either be to draw closer or to pull away to others around us....it isn't known how we react until we experience it & each experience can be different.

You are in a temporary state right now....it is not permanent & when your mind is ready (which seems like forever away right now) you will wake up & you will come back to the world around you as you knew it before.

Don't add more to your stress than you already have....understand that what you are going through is normal & accept it for what it is & keep moving forward....the empty feeling will be gone soon & you will be back to relating with your T as you had before.

Debbie

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Originally Posted by phoenix7

Thanks Treehouse

we mainly talked about our pets last time..........

i just need to wake up