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arcanum · Aug 25, 2009, 04:57 AM

I love my daughter unconditionally though sometimes i make her clean up lol otherwise i really want to ban her from my kitchen, i have ocd and she is a cook and an artist but not a very tidy one of either aarrgghh!!! We have a very strong relationship and she is one of my best friends.

I have been sometimes plagued with unconditional love too, i find it very easy to give but actually most people i ever gave it to always had conditions for me. It took me at least an extra 6 years or more of an unworking, unhappy marriage to give in as my unconditional feelings are extremely hard to break. I kept thinking that oneday maybe hed remember and realise how much i loved him. But no ~ now even though i have a wonderful relationship with a special person now and lots of very happy plans, i still cant bear to think of my ex, but only coz i love him so much it hurts. Although i did the right thing for me because he became a bully, im not sure that will ever change, i cant wipe 20 yrs out of my life just because its better now.

Your quote about acceptance is so true, if more people learned acceptance we would not really need the question! About unconditional love changing ~ everything changes, its what you do about it that matters. Some people unfortunately just change too much or maybe they were just not right in the first place ~ even after a long relationship. Some outside of a relationship will see something good and try to take or break it because they cannot accept others having more than they have for themselves. There are so many influences and the only person we can be completely true to is ourselves, that way we never expect our partners to accept less from us. We all make mistakes we are all human, acceptance makes recovery and ressolution possible.

Love is a powerful force and means all things to all people, if we are lucky enough to find the right people to share it with then i think it can very easily be unconditional both ways, but acceptance is always needed for it to grow.

Live, accept, love and be happy