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Aug 25, 2009, 07:30 AM
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Member Since: Jun 2009
Location: Suffolk
Posts: 99
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Knowing something doesnt stop it hurting, only time can lessen the pain.
The hurting doesnt stop you living and loving again though, life goes on. Dont let them make you doubt yourself, just because it didnt work with them doesnt mean you will not love and be happy again, just a little differently perhaps.
Things can and will get better though the pain of losing someone you truely loved can be a little like living in mourning just for someone who is still alive.
It is more than possible to love more than one person at the same time, trying to wait to feel free of someone you 'loved' in a relationship and love still for what you lost is not always fair either to you or to any potential partner. It is a separate and different thing, each relationship in its own right, do not dismiss all possibilities, as long as you treat each as such and do not blame the now loved for the past loves offences.
I know how you feel bout the strength of missing someone, having just had a big wobble because my ex got in contact and saw our daughter recently, it put me in a right downer and i cried for days. Not because i want him back, it wasnt working, but because i have loved him for 20 years and share a beautiful daughter with him for life but we cant seem to communicate anymore, and i mourn what we lost. Also at the same time though, i am very happy with a new partner, acceptance and a better and more stable life than i had before.
I hope things start to feel less instense for you soon, be good to yourself. 
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