Multipixie,

My vote is that you visit your Dad as planned (maybe not right away). Fix up that spare room so that it is your special hide-a-way and safe place, maybe with an internet connection and, until both those things can be accomplished, have a little respite at the place that has been offered to you, in the neighbourhood. Or, go there now and again, to feel more free.

Now, is time for Leslie. The children are married and doing their thing. I'm sure the girls support you building up Mom/Leslie. I am excited for you Multi and all that will be here for you! Sorry, but I'm thinking about all the lovely comforting things you could have in your room and what colours etc (sorry for thinking so shallowly).

Perhaps, without expectation, Phil will make an effort but I would, just, in the meantime, try to live as best you can, which you seem to be doing.


Hunny