(((((kiya)))))) i'm an old hat now but thank you nonetheless. it feels weird (and wonderful) to think that other ppl see wisdom in me, when i typically only think of myself as book smart.

fz - keep your fingers crossed that the conversation happens tomorrow, then. i think i am going to have to sit down with pen/paper and dot point out what i want to say, otherwise i will never have the courage to speak up.

and - i agree - your guesses typically do say a lot about both of us.