Hi Xelora....

Try to remember that emotions do bias thinking...like when you have a toothache it is very hard to think of the pain in others when your pain throbs in agony...

Give yourself some time for the emotions to quell...

Stay active,,do things,,action of any positive kind is a wonderfull way to move aside the obsessive thinking about her...

In time you will find it easier to think rationally about her and how she will or will not fit into your life...It is not important to make any of those choices today..

And about your Dad...I don't know any of the history there,,but without that advantage,,I will make one small token of advice...If it bothers you,,then do something about it...

With Care,

Lenny