Thanks for all the responses so far. I think while I'm still in such a panic mode I need space as much as she does. It's hard to tell myself that though because I keep thinking oh if I say this or that or say it in a better way. But yeah ugg that's just not letting go. And it's nice to feel someone would let you go if you needed it.

I really hope I can be friends with her some day so I don't want to take people's advice to just cut off every reminder. Plus with some mindfullness stuff I've been studying, I think just telling myself I absolutely must get over and stop thinking about her would only make me think of her more. It's still here and the thoughts may still come but that can be ok too I guess.