My T is at least as old as my mom, which is nice. But if she was just older without being tougher, I wouldn't care. I prefer older and tougher, but I'd settle for just tougher. I need someone to tell me to get my **** together, using that language on occasion. And she does. I've always gravitated to people older than me, so I'll keep looking for that until I feel like Pachy.