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Old Aug 27, 2009, 09:39 AM
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It's an estranged child. My estranged child. Wanna let him know that I do and always have cared but don't feel I have the right to after all these years. But also don't want him to think I don't give a damn after all. Tough call for me finding the balance line. nvm.

Thanks for advice anyways, Pomegranate!

That's a real tough one. Probably let him take the lead. Go in with a general sense of acceptance and interest in his life but let him initiate anything that even might indicate an interest in continuing the relationship. Be honest about your feelings but put no expectations on the results of the meeting.

This may seem unrelated, but in the relationship between my husband and my son (step-father and step-son) I often had to remind my husband who the adult was. My husband would always express child-like feelings about the competition between the two.

My point is, you are the adult. Expect him to have feelings appropriate to his age. You may end up pleasingly surprised. But you may end up disappointed. Just go with an open mind. The conversation may stay casual. It may not be time for deep feelings yet. I would answer questions only if he asks.

My thoughts and blessings are with you.
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Thanks for this!
Lost71