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Originally Posted by Vickie in Phoenix
That's a real tough one. Probably let him take the lead. Go in with a general sense of acceptance and interest in his life but let him initiate anything that even might indicate an interest in continuing the relationship. Be honest about your feelings but put no expectations on the results of the meeting.
This may seem unrelated, but in the relationship between my husband and my son (step-father and step-son) I often had to remind my husband who the adult was. My husband would always express child-like feelings about the competition between the two.
My point is, you are the adult. Expect him to have feelings appropriate to his age. You may end up pleasingly surprised. But you may end up disappointed. Just go with an open mind. The conversation may stay casual. It may not be time for deep feelings yet. I would answer questions only if he asks.
My thoughts and blessings are with you. 
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Hi Vickie!
I met with him today, supposed to be just for lunch but we spent a few hours and are meeting again tomorrow. I've been letting him take the lead from the start but have just been worried that may be coming across as cold, so we spoke about it and he doesn't feel like I am being. I told him he can ask me anything he wants, about anything he wants...like where have I been all these years...but he says the past is the past and I'm here now...and do I want my decorating doing as I'm crap at that kind of thing. Lol @ the cheeky monkey!
Thanks a lot for your input though, it helps!
Peace,
Julia
xox