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Originally Posted by true1
Relationships can only be sustained by complete truth and honesty. the instant fear enters the picture, whether it is fear of losing the other, or fear of what the partner might think about you, you have lost connection with that person and your mind/ego is in the way. If this happens, you have to be completely honest with them and tell them how you feel, and recognize it is just your mind; an impermanent creator of dramas that are not real. "you" are not really real, your ego is just an accumulation of attachments to things that passed through your life. when you are willing to let go of these, you are willing to love; you are willing to share the present moment with your love, and be as one. There is nothing stopping you except your bodies, but you will be able to share everything with one another without fear. fear is nothing in the presence of love.
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This is good, and yes I believe people should be truthful, and honest. The truth of the matter is most people have scars from their past. You just can't ignore the fact that they are there. The person who has the fear still needs to heal from it, and that comes with time. Most people enter a relationship with some kind of issue from the past, and we are offten attracted to people who have damanaged us from our past. Just IMO for a relationship to work, first you have got to like the person, and then for it to work, you need similar value systems.