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phoenix7 · Aug 28, 2009, 10:24 AM

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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge

I will take care of these for you, dear Phoenix, at least for now.

I definitely do believe that you deserve to have good things happen to you and that you deserve to be happy.

thankyou

thanks so much for your post, my T is trying to get me to think about the same things & I don't know how to begin.
She says that having compassion for others begins with having compassion for yourself; but this makes no sense to me. I feel that I am compassionate towards others - I even remember others telling me so - but for myself, no. For others I can make excuses; for myself I know the facts. It hurts to know what I really am, & what my past is, but how could one ever change it.

if i had said this what would you say to me? can you say that to yourself ? you may not believe it hte ifrst time or the first hundred times - but kep saying it till its true - if i deserve happiness than so do you - if i deserve to be loved and cared for in the right way then so do you - and thats all there is to it friend. And as to change - we change our cells every second - if we can rebuild our bodies - then oour mind should be able to be remodelled too - and it can be - i know that i am a far different person than i was a year or two ago adn hpefully next year i wil be different again . better hopefully.

what you really are is a kind person a caring person a wise person - but someone who was hurt by others and who blames herself when if there is blame it should be on them -