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Old Aug 28, 2009, 01:02 PM
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I agree with the others- Ts don't HAVE to say things to us. Even though it is hard to believe, when they do say positive things to/about us, we have to trust that they are saying it because it really is how they feel.

T always ends his emails with "Looking forward to seeing you...". I never believe that he really means though. I have said to him before "I don't know why you want to see me when I am soo much hard work and so difficult" (I have BPD). And he was absolutely astonished that I would say such a thing. He told me that he would be happy to go through hundreds more sessions if it meant that I would have some happiness and close relationships in my life- all he wants is for me to get better and he had upr for me I felt good in that session, but the next day went back to thinking he hated me and I was a nuisance.

I think your T really did mean it- I agree with Melbas T- why would T feel like she had to say something to make you feel good if she really didnt mean it?