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You've gotten such good replies here
I have
I'm sure it will come as no surprise that I have talked TONS with T about breaks and vacations. They're just hard, that's all there is to it.
I imagine you did
- I need his wisdom....
I used to be really scared that he would totally forget about me...forget I even existed. We've talked about that too. He always tells me that the connection might feel a little different at first when we get back together, but that that happens in ALL relationships.
Thats exactly how I feel- that there are people she loves in her life that she is spending her vacation time with. Feelings like these make me so ashamed of being needy and I feel like a child. But.....trying not to judge it...just be... and have my feelings....I want that day to come when when we get back together. It will be a little different.....I dont know what to say to her about how I feel. We didnt talk about this at all.
I remember once I was fretting about what our reunion would be like, and he said when he thought about it, he imagined it like being reunited with an old friend that you love very much...sort of a "hey - I know YOU" kind of warm feeling. I liked that. And when he comes back from vacation, he always tells me a little story about a time he thought about me...like "I was reading this article in Runners World and it reminded me of you" or whatever.
That is good. Really good. He thinks about you. I really dont know if my t would think about me at all unless I called. I dont think so. It makes me want to cry. I dont think she would.
I would be afrfaid to ask her that.
I do think that we are part of their lives and there probably ARE things that make us pop into their heads...we don't disappear.
Do you think so? I think your t does
I truly dont know if my t does think about me at all until I come into the room. Is it my "object consistancy" problem? Im not sure. I really believe when Im gone Im gone until the next time I see her. I think...there is a sliver of doubt...maybe I would occur to her in a non-therputic thought. I mean, I think she has thought about my treatment and how to help me, but popping into her mind in a non-theraputic way? I dont know.
I hope you will call T today if you need to - I don't think you are being a little girl. Or maybe you are, and that's okay. I call T AS I DRIVE AWAY FROM MY SESSION after every session! So, really, it's been 24 HOURS...what are you waiting for??!?!
I know you do. That amazes me. He is very committed and caring. Very.
I havent called....I want to pretend I dont feel this way....
I am afraid to start off with too many phone calls even before her vaca. What to do??????
We'll be here to help you through the break

I'd say we're getting pretty good at that what with the T Camping Trips/Conventions/Swiss Alps Vacations we've had around here lately!
OMG! Thank you! I feel like Im losin it.
And my kids are now screaming and wanting mommy...and mommy wants her t.....
Thanks