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Originally Posted by googley
I felt like she wanted to defend my brother's suggestion that I move home and did not support my view that it was not a viable option. It has made me really mad.
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I know my old T (who has been wonderful and who I started seeing closely after graduating,) said she would help me find a new T. She understood when I said that I couldn't live with my parents. I told her shortly before I left about my fear that when I started seeing her she would suggest I move in with my parents. I never had as strong of a feeling as I do now with this new T as I did then. I don't want to bother my old T with having to try and find another person. ...
... because of my situation I have very specific requirements.
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Hey Googley,
Sounds like a little bit of a sticky situation.
When I was in t the last time I had a few occasions where I got mad at my T. I didn't change Ts at the time, but in looking back on it for me I think it would have been best if I had. After having gotten myself all upset with the T I would try to just tell myself that things were OK, I was just over analyzing things. Now I feel like each time I got angry/upset with the T it just built on the previous time that I got angry/upset. As a result I ended up stopping t very abruptly, which probably wasn't good either.
I would suggest that you really look at how much this new T has upset you.
Yes, I know that t can be upsetting as the goal is to look at ourselves and ultimately figure ourselves out and as humans we don't always want to look in the proverbial mirror and see ourselves. But to me if the T is upsetting you that much it could really be best if you look into finding someone you can work with better.
I don't think your old T would mind at all helping you find another T to see. I think it would be a good idea to enlist the help of your old T, as your old T knows you very well and can try to find someone whose personality would mesh well with yours and who can address your issues.
I feel like I've rambled a bit, but I did want to try and share my thoughts.
Good luck and let us know what you decide to do and how things work out.
