Old Geezer, that's an excellent point. Masturbation and toys can greatly enhance a couple's sex life. Unfortunately, a lot of people--girls and women, especially--are taught or given the message that masturbation is dirty, wrong, bad. They also get the idea that they're not "enough" for a guy if he masturbates, or that he's cheating on them with himself. I'm sure there are guys who feel this way when a woman does it, but I've mostly heard it in the context of men masturbating. If you read some of the many books on improving your sex life and learning about sex in general, it can help you overcome this idea. I was taught that masturbation was nasty and wrong, so I felt guilty about it until I learned more (fortunately, I had a strong curiosity about sex as a teenager--I didn't have sex until I became an adult, but I masturbated and learned not to be embarrassed about admitting it).