Oh. Well, guys are often like that when it comes to emotional issues. There are the rare exceptions who are finely attuned to emotions, but for the most part, they've been taught by society to ignore their emotions (all except for anger)...and hence they don't know what to do when their woman is going through terrible swings for no apparent reason.

My mate doesn't think i need meds either, but he respects my choice to take them. He doesn't realize that the years we were drinking too much I was using it to self-medicate my mania. He only noticed the long term depression since we moved here 2 years ago. That was supposedly the problem. I thought so too. Then none of the unipolar anti-ds worked on me. But the bipolar ones did. So I eventually caught wise, read up on it, and diagnosed myself just as the professionals had come to the same conclusion. They were the first ones to mention it, not me, but I came around. I guess they're reluctant to label you unless you admit to periods of mania and depression.

Here's the problem. Because my mate has known more advanced unmedicated cases of bipolar, he thought there was no way I could have it. I had to educate him. In the end he said, "I just want you happy. Do whatever you think you need to do to feel better." So I'm pursuing my treatment on my own mostly. And you can do the same thing so long as he understands that you can't just stop taking your meds without risking going into a terrible swing one way or the other.

That would be the bear minimum is for him to say he won't stop you from taking your meds or pursuing relief from your symptoms. In my opinion anyway. Although it will be tough to not have his support and him secretly thinking that you're "fine."

Bad joke, but I like to say when people say, "It's all in your head."
"Exactly." Then they're kind of stunned.