(((TAO)))) you are caught up in distorted thinking. . . (me too, often) There are 10 common cognitive distortions, and they can ruin us!
<font color="blue"> 1 All or nothing thinking 2 over-generalization 3 mental filter 4 disqualifying the positive 5 jumping to conclusions 6 magnification (catastrophizing) or minimization 7 emotional reasoning 8 should statements 9 labeling and mislabeling 10 personalization.

These are from Cognitive Behavior Therapy, if you wish to research them further. Things CAN be better... honest.