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Aug 30, 2009, 03:59 AM
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Member Since: Aug 2009
Location: Utopia
Posts: 33
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Hi there,
This is a pretty good topic you've put up ((sabby))... It got me thinking...
Well, first of all I do not have children, I do not have a husband and I do not have a boyfriend, so may be your version of unconditional love is something I am unable to relate to, may be in a few years time (if God, Almighty wills, that is).
But unconditional love is there in all kinds of relationship, as I see it. Be it in a husband- wife relationship; boyfriend-girlfriend relationship; parent- child or sibling - sibling relationships....
Love is the strangest and the strongest emotion that holds the world together.
And every time the word "love" is said, the world's greatest love is of course 'motherly love'. The love that flows from the mother to her child is simply wonderful and strong. That is where we learn our first lessons of love.
It is when our mothers do not show their love to us that we become hard hearted or selfish in showing our love to others. That is when love is said to be painful. There are some who, when madly in love, don’t know what to do and end up hurting the person they love. Though they won’t be courageous enough to ask for forgiveness, inside them they will be burning with guilt, thinking “Oh God! Why did I ever hurt her/him??” and this would only intensify their love for the victim and hence more pain and suffering.
And just as I say unconditional lovers tend to hurt more, some keep it very quite. They think showing their love through words and hugs and all that is just a waste of time and that will only take away their status in the family or society.
There are others who show their love at its extreme level. Even the simplest wound to the beloved is a big disaster to them. They fill up their loved one with gifts, kisses and hugs, and everything they need and do not need.
While some others, they know exactly how much is to be given and taken care of. They won’t go to ends to show their love. Nor would they hide what they’ve got in them.
And there are yet others, who try their level best to conquer the hearts of their loved ones but in vain.
For example, my dad; I know he really loves me and wishes the best for me. But he has never succeeded in showing his love for me. I still don’t feel it in him, after 21 years of my life with him! It might be strange, but it’s true. When people love me, I am able to connect to them easily and I get along quite well with them, except with him. Why? I still haven’t got any answer. May be because of the way he treated me when I was a kid. Or may be because of the arrogant way he normally behaves with everyone. The problem of all these is I have become more or less like him than like my mom. But thankfully, some of my mom’s love has got into me.
This just occurred to me when Trying & Caring said this:
“I have unconditional love for my children & amazingly they have it for me. I have it for my husband of 35 yrs. (but been together since teenagers), but unfortunately, he doesn't have unconditional love for me...”
I thought may be her husband does have love for her. Only he does not want to or does not know how to show it.
P.S. : Sorry for making my post too long  . I just had to put my thoughts  somewhere. Pls tolerate me…… 
Blubaby 
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