not sure where to post. I have been emailing and talking to someone across the country. We have talked of meeting, a possible relationship. She is a survivor of rape; physical emotional,verbal family abuse; and is an adoptee. She has been going to counseling.
I went through years of emotional neglect/abuse and then alcoholic stepparent-more emotional crap- have lost 2 kids (11 year old-heart problems, 18 yo hiking accident)as well as both parents(dad died when I was 12). I too have been to counseling. Right now I feel the best I have ever felt(with the help of antidepressants). My concern is some of the things she has done/said. I don't want to go back to where I was, but I know I get so easily pulled in, my wanting to be accepted, loved. We will argue and she will tell me never to call again, and then within a few hours I will have many phone calls from her asking me to call. She doesn't trust me enough to give me her home address. I know these are traits of her past, but how much do I accept before I say enough is enough? A few weeks ago I flew to her area to surprise/meet her-(she had no idea I was glying in)it threw her so far out-scared her? that we never met. I want to support her, I care about her, but I don't want to get hurt-or revert back to my old ways
TI