Hello Patrick P, it's nice to meet you, welcome to psych central.
I don't know about everyone else but I also have high expectations and it is very frustrating because I set mine so high that they are unreachable at the moment. I am sorry I don't have any advice on how to find the middle ground because I have not found that place either. Here are some hugs for you.
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