Soccerball- I uunderstand you. I often feel out of control and not even sure what my feelings are and not clear. And scared and alone. Its in those moments tha I want to be rescued. Not in the clear moments when I feel I can do the work.

Its frightening. That feeling that your t is the only one who can jump in and stop the cycle. There is so much wisdom here in what everyone said to you....As far as what is appropriate for a t to do and what to ask for I think you can ask for the moon and see what she says. There are times when my t has really carried the ball for me when I need rescuing and she has been there to do it. If she feels I can do it and Ive asked for too much she has NO trouble setting a boundry. Im glad you have talked about this issue with her. And the particular boundries defininitely depend on the therapist. T's can go very far in carrying a patient depending on what they know about the patient and they can set firm boundries depending on what they think someone needs.

If you are really in trouble Soccerball, I have a feeling your t will give you as much support as you need to make you feel safe. Would that be enough? I have left a session feeling rescued from the horrible feelings I have come in with.

Sadly, she cannot rescue me from my past and the pain I have to go through. That is the kind of rescuing that cant come from anybody or anything. If only it could.....