Thank you all for your replies. If I had the resources I would probably separate from my spouse until we could work things out. I am partially disabled and can't work and so that keeps me stuck financially.

I do not know what to do just now. I will see my T later on today. My spouse told me not to go back to her, that she is poison and is keeping me stuck in my past. It got very soap opera-ish here yesterday and he is trying to use anything he can to control me. He has gone from passively ignoring me to lecturing/scolding me. It is kinda freaking me out. He doesn't think I have D.I.D. and that I just need to get over it all and move on. "You can lead a person to information, but you can't make them think"!

I think that when I posted my original comment I was seeking comfort more than actual information. I have a hard time asking for what I need or want. I really already know that no matter what you call it, neglect is harmful to anyone who experiences it.