Hi everyone,

I am in a difficult situation and could use a litte advice. I have been in a relationship with a man for six years and right before our 6 year anniversary he told me that he wants to end things with me. The problem is we can't just go our separate ways since we have owned a house together for 2 years and we need to live together until we can sell the house, and ending this relationship is not what I wanted. I have raised his son since he was 2 1/2 and we have lived together as a family for 5 years. He's okay with living together the way things are because he has been having an emotional affair with a mutual friend since last November and has detached from this relationship, but just told me about this two weeks ago, so I'm still in love, and living with him as if we are just roommates is killing me. I'm reminded every day of everything I'm going to lose, my relationship, the kid that I've raised since he was 2, my house, all our friends and his family, and I can't move on until we are living separate lives, but I don't want the house to go into foreclosure. All I have left is my credit. I am so hurt, angry, scared, i feel discarded. I gave 100% in this relationship. I even sacrificed marriage and having children with this man because I felt I had everything I needed with him and his son. Everyone tells me he's not worth a single tear, that he's selfish, and to just move on, but this has been my life for 6 years, and it's all gone. I don't know how to wrap my head around it. It's so easy to be angry and move on, but it's hard to love and let go. I don't want to forget about everything we loved about each other, and grow to hate him. I just can't understand why he's willing to give up everything we have, because of some old feelings for a friend he's had for 16 years, who has told him she isn't going to leave who she's been with for 16 years, just so he can be available to pursue something with her should things ever end with her and her significant other. Maybe it's because she doesn't want to be married or have anymore children, and he feels the same way, and he knows that I truly want those things, I don't know. It also hurts that this was someone who was my friend too, and knew what we had. She always use to say how lucky I was to have someone like him, and I feel like she took that away from me, even though she has no intentions on pursuing this relationship, especially after it's been done to her in the past. It just aggravates me how noone values relationships anymore.

I could just use as much support as I can right now to get through this. I have friends and family, but I work from home, and during the day I have no outlet to vent with anymore because they're all working.

If anyone has any advice on my options on what to do regarding the real estate issues or legal issues, please let me know.

Thank you for taking the time to read my blog.

Deedee