Kimmy, you said that your mother doesn't yet know if or what is going on w/her husbands health. Exactly what is there to be said or done until she knows something concrete. Besides, I admit that I would be interested in your mom's history (if any) of using potential health situations to manipulate you. Mine did it all the time...(i.e. "I may have cancer" - she didn't....."I may be dealing with some malignancy in my stomach----she wasn't...)
Just curious....and, for the record....why not wait until tomorrow.....