(((((((((((((((((grace))))))))))))))))))))) good point which i haven't thought of yet (this just happened). she does have a history of that...anything from mental to physical self dx to get especially my attn. she did the cancer thing, the heart thing, etc. she will use other ppl's hard times to gain attn for herself as well. for instance, if i was doing badly (depression, etc.) she would ask why, take my reason, internalize it, and then it became her who was doing much worse than i. i have every reason to question this. i know that, but with so much going on internally, i need to hear other ppls good sense.

ty so much!

kd