You definitely need to talk to a lawyer. Usually the initial consultation is free, so you can check them out and if you don't like them, find someone else. But you need to protect your ownership rights, etc.

And you need to be kind to yourself. You obviously have friends around, and sometimes people don't know what to say, so when they say, "Don't waste a tear," they're really saying, "He's a rat." They're not really saying, "Don't cry." Who wouldn't cry in your situation?

And I don't know if you'll have any legal rights toward the little one or not, but try to remain amicable for that one's sake. But at the same time, make sure you are keeping yourself safe and strong.

This is a major life test, and I'm sorry it's happening to you. Find a lawyer, maybe find a counselor if you don't already have one, let friends and family help you if they can, and believe in yourself. You will get through this. Good luck.