when i started with my new i i gave her the basics about me...i told her about my attempts and such (how and when & generally why) but nothing specific. i figured she had a right to know if she was to treat me.

it has been only i'd say withing the past 8 months or so have i been able to really share the sordid details about them to her (beyond the physical mechanics).

like i said...i wanted to be honest with her when i started but i wasn't ready to be brutally honest (i guess with both her and me) yet. i kind of think this is normal.