Hi, Patrick P, and welcome

Perhaps being kinder to yourself would help...if we compare ourselves to others, we will always come up short. Please don't waste your energy on doing it.
I agree with you about the affects of the media on us. Sometimes we fail to remember that we are seeing well-scripted situations...ones we may not handle with wisdom and bravery--all the while the actors do not have a hair out of place nor does a beer belly show.
Reality shows? Yeah, right. Seldom are average people included in these competitions.

Patrick, you are not lacking anything in the ways that count the most...
Nothing and no one are perfect. Where would be the fun in that?! Stagnation, perhaps.
Perfect? An illusion.
A worthwhile human being with much to offer? That's reality.

In Peace