If you can begin you pinpoint what the anger might be, then it won't be unproductive.

I can relate to your plight as this is the core of what we work on in therapy. Often times I've wondered what the point is of having to deal with this anger and how can T be of any help if she continues to take breaks when she can see how destroyed I feel. what she does is allows me to talk about the anger and listens and sometimes offers things that will help, ie the email contact during breaks and each break and each time we work on my anger I get and it gets validated and listened to and my innner strenght and ablity to bear her being away grows. For me in my past no one could tolerate my feelings of bereftment so it became some great big monster, the healing comes in reliving these situations and having them validate and respected. Sounds a bit crass, but it really is as basic as this. I thought somewhere in my mind that my anger could only be solved if I could make T jump into action in the direction I wanted, thats not the answer, the answer is having someone not have to jump into unthought action, but remain solid to who they are but not minimising what I am feeling. ITs tough, but keep talking about it with T.