My experience with this exact same issue was that growing up I was in a very powerless position, I'd learnt to become helpless to a degree....I too wanted to be saved. What I've found is that theres a different way that T's saving us comes about...I have flashbacks in therapy and when I am back in time I can mentally put T there into the old picture....this changes the intense aloneness of my traumas...also T sits with me when I am experiencing very powerful fears and in the beginning I wanted to attack her for not stopping the fears, but whats shes done has become a presence, so its not that she has taken the awful fears away, its that I am becoming stronger and bear them more....these are the ways I've found T saves me when actually us doing what we need to do to heal ourselfs with the T's presence...so it can be done and is a natural part of recovery.