Thank you everyone for your advice. I think I will probably wait for a couple of visits.
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Originally Posted by ECHOES
I'm wondering about your statement that you feel like you need to tell T about the SI.
Do you mean you feel that she is expecting you to tell her?
Or that you would like to tell her? Maybe telling her this and seeing her reaction is a way of 'testing' this new person, or maybe a way to bring her closer to you in a protective stance?
just some thoughts.
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I think part of it is my want to be a perfect client. If I know that it is something that I should mention, then to be perfect I feel like I need to. The strange thing is that I've mentioned something that I view as worse as she directly asked about it, but this just is more difficult to talk about. I'm scared about how she will react.
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Originally Posted by sunrise
googley, I remember you have seen this T once, and aren't sure you will continue to see her--you're still in that trial period. I think revealing a lot before you have made a commitment to stay with her is not a good idea. Because, if you do end up discontinuing, you might feel vulnerable and exposed--to someone you didn't like well enough to continue with. That is not a good feeling. There will be time enough to tell this T, if you continue with her, that at some time in your past you SIed. There are important things I didn't tell my T until months and months after we started therapy. He was not surprised by this. It takes time to develop trust.
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Sunrise, I know what you mean about not wanting to open up too much to someone too soon, especially if I'm not going to stay. I had that happen once with a pdoc and and am still disgruntled/angry even years later. It ended up being that the pdoc had no tact and I did feel violated.
It is all so complicated and may have something to do with this other experience also. I think I am worried about the same thing happening, but at the same time want to test the new T to see how she responds. I can't do both at the same time. Ugh.