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Originally Posted by marjan
People come to my life, but I push them away....I don't know what is wrong with me....
...I moved from country to country, then I lost all those beautiful, compassionate friends that I made....I miss them....
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Hi, Marjan! You had and maintained good friendships in one country, but then you moved. Now, in the new country, you find yourself lonely and have trouble developing the kind of friendships you once enjoyed.
Speculation: You crossed a cultural divide and have yet to fully adapt to the new social environment in which you live. Depression may be further complicating what is normally a difficult acculturation process for anyone.
"Culture" is far more than formal language and customs. It runs down to the roots of our experience of reality. Intercultural miscommunication is common in the realm of relationships where the people involved grew up in even slightly different societies.
Anyway, all that is my speculating on the basis of too little information, drawing on the biases of my personal observations and experiences. You DO know how to be and make friends. You simply may need more time to absorb the "thought/emotional styles" of your new environment. Wishing you the best!
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