Gosh, after reading both your posts I am seeing this could be my sons future also. Although my situation is slightly different. I have an 17 yr old son who suffers from depression and is on prozac. I am still married in an OK relationship. My son is an only child. He has had everything done for him and never gone without, so it was difficult for me to understand why he was depressed. He tends to be a loner- brought about by school bullying. He spends far too much time on the internet as these are the only friends he has. The school has just informed us that he has failed the HSC.
It is a dilemma - do we let him repeat the final year which is very expensive - and have the chance that all this will make no difference as he may just fail again? Do we make him get a job and face the 'real world'? But then how will he get a job without qualifications or experience? Many of the really basic courses require the HSC.
I am beginning to think that the more you try to do things for them, the worse it is. At some stage they are adult (aged 18) and their lives are then their responsibility. Even though you are their parent/s there is only so much you can do for them. It's like when they learn to ride a bicycle without the training wheels - at some stage you have to let go . They may crash, but it's the only way they learn. It's difficult to watch them when they hurt themselves, but it's something that they have to experience in order to develope. It's sometimes the thing they need to snap them into reality.
Even saying this, I still am unsure of my sons future - should I be worried? I can fully sympathize with you guys. As a mum you are always worried about their wellbeing.
Why does life have to be so hard?

Lisa