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Have you tried talking to him? He’s 32 years old. Express your concerns and your fears. Avoiding the topic doesn’t make it go away. Sometimes tough love is the only way he’ll seek help for himself. The only way he’ll be able to make positive changes in his life is if he wants to. Sometimes the hardest thing we have to do as parents is cut them loose and make them responsible for their own life.
Right now he doesn’t have to worry about not making ends meet financially because you’re there picking up the pieces for him. Enabling is exactly the right word. Perhaps you should think about seeing a therapist to develop healthy ways to help him without being a crutch for him. Make seeing the family therapist a condition of your continued. Let him that you love him, that he will always have your unconditional love but you have fears about his future and you won’t be here forever.
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I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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